I just finished reading the chapter in Ann Coulter's Book 'Guilty' on single mothers. I'd like to know a few things from Ann. If she believes so firmly in the fact that women shouldn't have sex before marraige, I'd like to know that if at 47 years of age and after being engaged five times, is she still a virgin? I highly doubt it. I also don't agree with her thought that if you have chosen divorce or had a child out of wedlock that you have RUINED (her words) your child's life. She fails to mention at any point women who were forced to choose divorce as the better option for their child's life. Is it better to raise a child in a home with a husband who smokes pot 24/7 and stay married, or raise the child yourself in a wholesome environment? I think the latter is a better choice. Although I'm sure that at this point Ann would point out that you should have known your husband was a drug addict before you married him. Unfortunately, many men hide their bad habits until they are married. I do understand that the a huge percentage of single mothers are crackheads and high school drop outs but, be concise and thorough. Don't forget to mention that there ARE single mothers who DO NOT consider themselves victims and raise their children quite well.
I also didn't hear her mention anything about the fathers of some of these 'illegitimate' children who have a committment fear. I don't like the way she tries to make it seem like everything is the woman's choice. Most women feel that if they have a baby with the man they love, that at some point that man will want to marry them. A normal warm hearted person is not going to force a person to marry them. I personally wouldn't want to marry someone that didn't want to marry me. It's not the woman's fault when the man continually shys away from the institute of marraige. Having a loving involved father in a child's life is more important than a piece of paper from the state saying that he is married to you. This again is another decision single mothers are forced to make - one that benefits the children. It's not that these mothers don't want to marry, sometimes it's the man. This is not something that can be forced or 'found out' ahead of time. I honestly don't think that Ann has a good grip on this topic at all and it's obvious that she has never been in a truly loving relationship with a man. It's easy to talk and write about something when you've never actually been through it because what you're writing is your opinion based on fiction not fact.
I also don't think she should be writing about what unborn children may think (that in itself is utterly ridiculous because a fetus doesn't have the capability to think). If I had a chance to talk with her I would tell her that if she ever has children she'll find herself singing a much less irritable tune. I don't think that women who aren't mothers have a right to judge women that are.
I do agree with her on the point though that the loss of the nuclear family is to blame for much of our society's problems (crime, welfare, teenage pregnancy). I also felt happy to see that Ann agrees with me on the fact that Barbara Ehrenreich and late British anthropologist Edmund Leach are complete dickheads. Any woman (Barbara) who thinks that her own home is 'the most dangerous place to be' is a complete and finite idiot.
Anyway, I haven't really written my thoughts in an organized manner, but then again I'm not a writer. My main point is that there ARE single mothers out there who have chosen their 'plight' for the BENEFIT of their children. There ARE single mothers out there who make a good living and provide a more than comfortable home for their children without governmental assistance, and there ARE single mothers out there who DO NOT consider themselves victims. Oh and by the way Ann - stop trying to form your own little religion. Either you're Catholic or you're not. Which is it? Enough with this 'Christian' bullshit.
